Modern love can feel like an endless loop of dating apps, situationships, and surface-level connections, but according to Livia Devi, a former C-suite tech executive turned conscious living coach, true, heart-centred relationships aren’t found by endlessly swiping right—they’re consciously created.
“Summer is the perfect time to open your heart to deeper connections,” says Livia. “With its energy of renewal and spontaneity, it’s an opportunity to shift away from fleeting encounters and build something real.”
So, how do you break free from the cycle of shallow dating and nurture relationships that actually last? Here’s Livia’s expert advice.
1. Stop Searching for ‘The One’—Start Creating Love
The idea of a perfect soulmate who will complete you is one of the biggest myths in modern dating.
“The belief in ‘The One’ keeps people stuck in an endless cycle of searching, swiping, and ultimately feeling unfulfilled,” Livia explains. “Instead of looking for perfection, focus on building a relationship that brings you joy and connection.”
This means showing up as your most authentic self, being emotionally available, and recognising that love isn’t something you find—it’s something you nurture over time.
2. Choose Depth Over Convenience
With so many options at our fingertips, it’s easy to treat dating like a numbers game—endless scrolling, instant attraction, and quick dismissals. But lasting love isn’t about finding someone flawless; it’s about choosing to invest in a real connection.
“True love isn’t always convenient,” says Livia. “It’s about choosing someone not just when things are exciting and easy, but when they’re real and sometimes challenging.”
Rather than discarding potential partners over minor flaws, ask yourself: Am I giving this connection the time and space it needs to grow?
3. Prioritise Emotional Intimacy Over Grand Gestures
Grand romantic gestures may look impressive on Instagram, but they don’t create real intimacy. True connection is built in the quiet moments—the deep conversations, the shared silences, the ability to be fully yourself without fear of judgment.
“Emotional intimacy is about feeling safe, seen, and accepted,” says Livia. “It’s knowing you can be vulnerable with someone and they’ll meet you with understanding rather than criticism.”
Ask yourself: Can I be completely myself with this person? Do they listen without judgment? Do I feel at peace in their presence? If the answer is yes, you’re building something meaningful.
4. Make Space for Real Connection
One of the biggest barriers to love? Not making space for it.
“If your life is already overflowing—with work, social commitments, distractions—it’s hard for a new connection to take root,” Livia says.
This summer, be intentional about making space for love. That could mean creating more downtime, setting boundaries around work, or making a conscious effort to be present in your interactions.
5. Adopt Daily Connection Practices
Whether you’re in a relationship or looking for one, love thrives when we cultivate it. Livia recommends simple, daily habits to strengthen emotional bonds:
- Deep listening – Put your phone down, make eye contact, and truly hear what someone is saying.
- Gratitude – Express appreciation, whether it’s for a partner or someone you’re dating.
- Small, thoughtful gestures – It’s not about extravagant gifts but about showing you care—whether that’s remembering their coffee order or sending a thoughtful message.
“This summer, shift your approach,” says Livia. “Prioritise depth over drama, presence over perfection, and emotional connection over fleeting attraction. When you do, you’ll create the kind of love that truly lasts.”
Livia helps entrepreneurs, couples, and individuals lead more conscious, heart-centred lives. To learn more, visit www.liviadevi.com